Lessons To Learn From The Life Of An Eagle. by stephen ponti

                         

1. Eagles fly alone at a high altitude and not with sparrows or mix with other smaller birds. Birds of a feather flock together. No other bird goes to the height of the eagle. Eagles fly with eagles. Never in a flock. Even when Moses (Old Testament Bible) went to commune with God on the mountain, he left the crowd at the foothills. Stay away from sparrows and ravens. Eagles fly with eagles.

2. Eagles have strong vision, which focuses up to 5 kilometers from the air. When an eagle sites prey- even a rodent from this distance, he narrows his focus on it and sets out to get it. No matter the obstacle, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it. Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.

3. Eagles do not eat dead things. He feeds on fresh prey. Vultures eat dead animals but not eagles. Steer clear of outdated and old information. Do your research well always.

4. The Eagle is the only bird that loves the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the wings of the storm to rise and is pushed up higher. Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle stops flapping and uses the pressure of the raging storm to soar the clouds and glide. This gives the eagle an opportunity to rest its wings. In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees. We can use the storms of our lives (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.

5. The Eagle tests before it trusts. When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her.

Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases until he reaches it and has to catch it before it falls to the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle. The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude pursued by the male until she perceives it high enough, and then drops the twig for the male to chase. This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment, then and only then, will she allow him to mate with her! Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.

6. Eagles prepare for training. When about to lay eggs, the female and male eagle identify a place very high on a cliff where no predators can reach; the
male flies to earth and picks thorns and lays them on the crevice of the cliff, then flies to earth again to collect twigs which he lays in the intended nest. He flies back to earth picks thorns and lays them on top of the twigs. He flies back to earth and picks soft grass to cover the thorns, and then flies back to pick rugs to put on the grass. When this first layering is complete the male eagle runs back to earth and picks more thorns, lays them on the nest; runs back to get grass and rugs and lays them on top of the thorns, then plucks his feathers to complete the nest. The thorns on the outside of the nest protect it from possible intruders. Both male and female eagles participate in raising the eagle family. She lays the eggs and protects them; he builds the nest and hunts. During the time of training the young ones to fly, the mother eagle throws the eaglets out of the nest and because they are scared, they jump into the nest again.

Next, she throws them out and then takes off the soft layers of the nest, leaving the thorns bare. When the scared eaglets jump into the nest again, they are pricked by thorns. Shrieking and bleeding they jump out again this time wondering why the mother and father who love them so much are torturing them. Next, mother eagle pushes them off the cliff into the air.

As they shriek in fear, father eagle flies out and picks them up on his back before they fall, and brings them back to the cliff. This goes on for sometime until they start flapping their wings. They get excited at this new found knowledge that they can fly and not fall at such a fast rate.

The father and mother eagle supports them with their wings.

The preparation of the nest teaches us to prepare for changes;

The preparation for the family teaches us that active participation of both partners leads to success;

The being pricked by the thorns tells us that sometimes being too comfortable where we are may result into our not experiencing life, not progressing and not learning at all. The thorns of life come to teach us that we need to grow, get out of the nest and love on. We may not know it but the seemingly comfortable and safe haven may have thorns;

The people who love us do not let us languish in sloth but push us hard to grow and prosper. Even in their seemingly bad actions they have good intentions for us.

7. When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should. When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks. While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare. He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out. We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us without adding to our lives…
“As an eagle stirreth up her nest, fluttereth over her young, spreadeth abroad her wings, taketh them, beareth them on her wings:” -Deuteronomy 32:11

A Voice in the Night

             

A Voice in the Night

Sit up!" The voice in the night said, "And take a deep breath."

"It was a stormy night," a personal friend shared, "and we were awakened by an extremely loud clap of thunder. After the initial fright, checking the kids and the house, we went back to bed and to sleep.

"Then came the voice. I was certain I heard someone speaking. "Sit up and take in a deep breath," it said.

"I only half-awoke and thought I must have been dreaming, so rolled over and went back to sleep."

"The voice spoke again with more insistence, 'Sit up and take in a deep breath."'

"This is weird," I thought so again rolled over and went back to sleep.

"'SIT UP! Take in a deep breath!' the voice spoke again with great urgency.

"So I sat up and took in a deep breath ... and smelled smoke!" I was fully awake in an instant ... awakened my husband ... rushed to wake the children ... we had the oldest one phone 911 (for emergency) ... my husband took over the phone ... the operator asked if the lights were working ... my husband said they were going out one room at a time.

"Get OUT of the house immediately," declared the operator. Your house has been struck by lightning."

As quick as a flash the family rushed outside ... immediately the house exploded and burst into flames. It took firemen six hours to put the fire out. The house was totally destroyed ... but the entire family was saved. Talk about a wake-up call!

Surely this was a God thing. Fortunately this family was committed followers of Jesus Christ and even though they lost their house, their lives were saved.

God doesn't usually speak to most of us with an audible voice. He doesn't have to because his "wake-up call" is spoken to us repeatedly in his Word, the Bible. "Wake up!" God says to every one of us, "Flee from the wrath to come"¹ (God's judgment of sin and evil for the world that has turned from God will be judged and purified by fire). Wake up, "It is appointed unto man once to die and after this the judgment."² Wake up, "I will come again," Jesus promised "to take all who believe in me to be with me in heaven forever."³

"Wake up," Jesus is coming again ... it may be today. Are you ready? Again Jesus said, "I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in...."⁴

Whatever you do don't miss God's wake-up call. Have you opened the door of life and invited Jesus, the Son of God, to come into your heart and life as your God and your Saviour? If not, may I urge you to do that today ... right now ... by praying a simple prayer such as.

Dear God, I hear your wake up call as faint as it may be. I confess that I am a sinner and ask for your forgiveness. Thank you, Jesus, for dying on the cross to pay the penalty for all my sins. I invite you to come into my heart and life as my God and my Saviour. With your help I repent of and turn from my sinful ways. Thank you for hearing my prayer, for forgiving me of my sins, and for coming into my heart and life as my Saviour. Help me to live for you always in all ways. Gratefully.  In Jesus' name, amen."

If you prayed this prayer.
please let me know or you can send me a mail ajaloko4u@yahoo.com.

Message for The Day TIME TO USE YOUR AUTHORITY IS NOW

MESSAGE TITLE:  TIME TO USE YOUR AUTHORITY IS NOW

BIBLE READING: 1 Psalm 136

2 Exodus 14: 15-16.

INTRODUCTION

God gave Moses the order to use the rod because it is time for the rod to work. God want you to use the authority given to you so that you can part your red sea. Move forward is the command from God. The problem with the children of God today is not prayer but they have little faith.

They prayed, over-desperate prayers but your faith is really low. God shouted on Moses; why he cried to Him, use your rod!

Unbelief makes God angry, when you receive Jesus Christ as your Lord and saviour, Jesus gave you power to say enough is enough.

The rod you have today is the name of Jesus. As you command the red sea to part, they part in the name of Jesus.

 POWER: The ability to do something or act.
AUTHORITY: The power of God to settle issue, the right to control.
Some people do not know the power of God and authority they carry, that is why their neighbors or families push them around.
Command satan based on the authority given to us by God and not begging Him.

Why does churches loses power and authority?.

This is because of sin, disobedience, doubt.
There is mystery in the church which must not be contaminated. You can’t play with Satan and his toys and expect power and authority to remain. 2Timothy 3: 1-5:

In other to work in the authority

Sanctify your life: read deeply of the Apostle.

If you are not living right, the demons will challenge you.

Disobedience to God has made man t loose authority.

Stop Complaining and crying ; use the authority and speak the world.

Jer. 1:10 – Wherever you find yourself, you are expected to pull down destroy and to plant.

How obedient are you to the command of God?

When God says do it, you submit to His will, you’ll live above all odds, find power and authority in Him.

The authority given to you can turn the kingdom of darkness upside down, it can turn it anywhere but you are not using it.

What to do to get back Authority

•  Get born again
•  Know your position in God
•  Exercise the authority. Don’t keep the power, manifest it, exercise the authority.

 PRAYER POINTS

•  Fire of God, enter into my life, locate and destroy every darkness in my life.
•  I take authority over every satanic power in my job, home and family in Jesus name.
•  I take authority over every strongman of my father’s house.
•  I take authority over every demonic failure in my life.
•  I take authority over inherited problem in my life.
•  I take authority over evil pattern of my father’s house.
•  Every evil vow to reduce me to nothing backfire.
•  Jesus, by your transforming power, move me from the back to the front.
•  Blood of Jesus, weaken every power challenging the authority in my life.

"What is Israel's role in the end times?"

"What is Israel's role in the end times?"

Answer: Every time there is a conflict in or around Israel, many see it as a sign of the quickly approaching end times. The problem with this is that we may eventually tire of the conflict in Israel, so much so that we will not recognize when true, prophetically significant events occur. Conflict in Israel is not necessarily a sign of the end times.

Conflict in Israel has been a reality whenever Israel has existed as a nation. Whether it was the Egyptians, Amalekites, Midianites, Moabites, Ammonites, Amorites, Philistines, Assyrians, Babylonians, Persians, or Romans, the nation of Israel has always been persecuted by its neighbors. Why is this? According to the Bible, it is because God has a special plan for the nation of Israel, and Satan wants to defeat that plan. Satanically influenced hatred of Israel—and especially Israel’s God—is the reason Israel’s neighbors have always wanted to see Israel destroyed. Whether it is Sennacherib, king of Assyria; Haman, official of Persia; Hitler, leader of Nazi Germany; or Rouhani, President of Iran, attempts to completely destroy Israel will always fail. The persecutors of Israel will come and go, but the persecution will remain until the second coming of Christ. As a result, conflict in Israel is not a reliable indicator of the soon arrival of the end times.

However, the Bible does say there will be terrible conflict in Israel during the end times. That is why the time period is known as the Tribulation, the Great Tribulation, and the “time of Jacob’s trouble” (Jeremiah 30:7). Here is what the Bible says about Israel in the end times:

There will be a mass return of Jews to the land of Israel (Deuteronomy 30:3; Isaiah 43:6; Ezekiel 34:11-13; 36:24; 37:1-14).

The Antichrist will make a 7-year covenant of "peace" with Israel (Isaiah 28:18; Daniel 9:27).

The temple will be rebuilt in Jerusalem (Daniel 9:27; Matthew 24:15; 2 Thessalonians 2:3-4; Revelation 11:1).

The Antichrist will break his covenant with Israel, and worldwide persecution of Israel will result (Daniel 9:27; 12:1, 11; Zechariah 11:16; Matthew 24:15, 21; Revelation 12:13). Israel will be invaded (Ezekiel chapters 38-39).

Israel will finally recognize Jesus as their Messiah (Zechariah 12:10). Israel will be regenerated, restored, and regathered (Jeremiah 33:8; Ezekiel 11:17; Romans 11:26).

There is much turmoil in Israel today. Israel is persecuted, surrounded by enemies—Syria, Lebanon, Jordan, Saudi Arabia, Iran, Hamas, Islamic Jihad, Hezbollah, etc. But this hatred and persecution of Israel is only a hint of what will happen in the end times (Matthew 24:15-21). The latest round of persecution began when Israel was reconstituted as a nation in 1948. Many Bible prophecy scholars believed the six-day Arab-Israeli war in 1967 was the "beginning of the end." Could what is taking place in Israel today indicate that the end is near? Yes. Does it necessarily mean the end is near? No. Jesus Himself said it best, "Watch out that no one deceives you. . . . You will hear of wars and rumors of wars, but see to it that you are not alarmed. Such things must happen, but the end is still to come" (Matthew 24:4-6).  
From GotQuestions.org?

THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE

THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE
Marriage is the only school where u get the
Certificate before you start. It's also a school where
you will never graduate.
It's a school without a break or a free period.
It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out.
It's a school you will have to attend every day of
your life.
It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays.
It's a school founded by God:
1.On the foundation of love.
2.The walls are made out of trust.
3.The door made out of acceptance.
4.The windows made out of understanding
5.The furniture made out of blessings
6.The roof made out of faith.
Be reminded that you are just a student not the
principal.
God is the only Principal.
Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run
outside.
Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to
be.
Never go to sleep before completing your
assignments for the day.
Never forget the C-word...Communicate.
Communicate to your classmate and to the Principal
If you find out something in your classmate (spouse)
that you do not appreciate.
Remember your classmate is also just a student not a
graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So
take it as a challenge and work on it together.
Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main
textbook of this school).
Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it
the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not
attending classes, yet you have to.
When tempted to quit find courage and continue.
Some tests and exams may be tough but remember
the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet
it's a school better than any other.
It's one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and
happiness accompany each lesson of the day.
Different subjects are offered in this school, yet
love is the major subject.
After all the years of theorizing about it, now you
have a chance to practice it.
To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the
greatest privilege of them all.
Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse. More grace from God.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner

                               
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one mornin She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.
So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now, remember this for the second (or third) time around. It's never too late.
If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Jesus love's you.

Over time I've discovered there is no absolute finish line for everyone in the race of life.

                                           

Over time I've discovered there is no absolute finish line for everyone in the race of life.
Our tracks are different and our durations are different.
The only thing we have in common is the same empire.
For instance, one person graduates @age 20 and struggles for another 5 years to get a job, another might graduate @ 25 and get a job immediately.
One can marry a virgin and wait for the next decade to have the blessing of children, another lady probably after having series of abortions in her past, becomes a mother almost immediately after marriage.
A fellow becomes MD @ 38 and dies @ 56, another becomes MD @ 55 and lives to 90.
What a life?
Life is full of twists, turns-ups and downs and many more surprises and disappointments.
Life offers each and everyone of us different opportunities and once an opportunity is lost, it's gone forever except by the grace of God.
It is up to each one of us to patiently prepare, wait, recognise and utilize every opportunity. We learn on the way. No one has it all or knows it all.
There is a reason why we all don't fall @the same time, It's so that when one is down, weak and discouraged, the other who is strong can encourage and lift the other person.
God never promises that the road would be easy, but he promised never to leave or forsake us. Although life is complicated, let us learn to go easy on ourselves and trust that God is working it all out for our good (even if it doesn't make sense now). Whatever trials, challenges or down times we face, all shall pass and in due course, we will be up and strong again to lift up those who may be down around us. NEVER LOOSE HOPE... We all have a story to tell someday... Pass this on to your friends to encourage them in their journey called LIFE.

As God put an end to Jabez's poverty, I decree into your life today that, whatever problem or tribulations you are facing in your life that you don't like or want, God shall put an end to it right now in Jesus name.

 The Lord will bring a testimony out of your weakness and catapults you to the next Glory in Jesus name. Every power of darkness contending with your Glory, receive the light of fire of God in Jesus Name. Today, shouts of joy will never never cease from mouth because the Glory of God is upon you.

The Lord, will be before you to lead you, behind you to guide you, beside you to protect you and above you to cover you with the  Blood of Jesus. The power of victory, protection and independence shall be your portion in Jesus Mighty name. Amen. HAPPY SUNDAY, enjoy the amazing Grace of God.

Sex can bring about new feelings

The best way to prepare for the decision to have sex is to become comfortable with communications about your needs. Choosing to take part in one kind of sexual activity doesn’t automatically mean that you’re up for anything. The best way to make sure that your limits are understood and respected is to have sex with a partner who not only respects you and your body, but who will talk with you before you have sex about your concerns and boundaries.

Communicating these things before you’re actually in a sexual situation can be very helpful in making sure that you are both on the same page. If you don’t feel right about something, say so! Anyone who challenges your choices about whether or not to have sex is not giving you the respect that you deserve. Pay attention to your feelings, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making decisions that are right for you.

You own your  Feelings

Because sex can bring about new feelings, it is helpful to think about your reactions, emotions and possible risks every time you consider having sex with a new person. Make sure you take time to think about how to prepare yourself for an experience that could be wonderful, but can also be hard emotionally. These questions can be helpful:

                            

 "My wife won't have sex with me but once a month--if that! What is 'normal sexual relations'? She makes me out to be a sex maniac. What does the bible say, if anything, about this?"

1Cor 7:5 (NKJ) Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time...

1Cor 7:5 (Wey) Do not refuse one another, unless perhaps it is just for a time and by mutual consent...

So, it is a sin to refuse sex to your spouse. More to the point are the verses just before:

1Cor 7:3-4 (NRS) The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

As to frequency, I suppose people differ. But it is not for an outsider to say in any case. If one partner wants sex, then God's command for marriage is clear enough: "no refusal" is permitted unless mutually agreed to for a time of prayer. That is the command of scripture. Your body belongs to her, and vice versa.

First, search your own heart and see if you have not "destroyed your own household" (Pv 14:1) in terms of normal sexual response and desire. In other words, if you have been sinning and are just reaping the harvest of your ways, then there is no time like the present to repent, ask for forgiveness, and seek God for healing. But if your conscience is clear, and she is sinning by "holding out", this is also a grievous sin that directly disobeys the word of God, and she must be confronted about it.

Practically, this needs to be worked out some other way than by the letter of the law; but the law has its "ministry" (of condemnation). The law won't change her, in other words, but will serve to bring proper conviction into her life. God has told you what to do if you find your brother (or sister, in this case) in sin (Mt 18:15-17). Go to her, just the two of you, and confront her. If she does not repent, then go with two or three. This is the command of your Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

More than a few women have a problem in this area. Not to be overly dramatic, but these women are prostituting themselves within marriage. For one reason or another, such women like to have their husbands sex starved so they can blackmail them, control them, humiliate them, dole out the favors on their terms, get what they want, etc. They are prostitutes, in other words, who happened to be married. Husbands can do the same thing, and have, as a form of control; but it is more often women who fall into this pathology of sin. Of course, there is always the excuses and contingencies, as with any sin. But God looks to the heart of the matter, to what is really going on. Whenever sex is bartered, it is prostitution; and no money need change hands. Married people belong to each other. A wife in disobedience has become a married prostitute with a single customer. God is not mocked. Such is a great offense and thus the warnings of the scriptures above.

There is not much that scripture says to married couples, and this is something very clear. It is a sin to deny the partner in marriage. This must be confronted and repented of.

Eph 5:3-17 (NIV) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people... Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient... Find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is light that makes everything visible... Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is.

Can there be love at first sight?

 

1. Can there be love at first sight?

Sometimes when you meet someone for the first time, you immediately sense an attraction.

This happens because your subconscious recognizes similarities you share with that person.

This instant recognition is not love, but provides an opportunity for you to get to know each other and possibly fall in love.

 This is nature’s way of bringing two people who share compatibility together. Sometimes this happens, but the people involved miss the opportunity to make a physical connection with each other, but the mental connection is clear. Yes there can be love at first sight.

2. Why do people need love?

mother’s love, which is considered the highest form of love, is associated with care and protection.

so when someone feels loved, he\she feels cared for and protected; he\she feels safe. 

In the days of pain, a man who love’s a woman would do whatever it takes, including risking his life to provide the necessities for her survival.  In return his wife would show her love by providing the comforts of home, such as, treating his wounds, giving him love, sexual pleasure, and bearing him children.

3. Could you create sexual chemistry?   

If at the beginning of a relationship or a short period thereafter you do not feel a sexual attraction for your partner, it is unlikely that this chemistry would develop.

Like every other thing, there are exceptions, but with sexual chemistry, you either have it or you don’t and there are reasons for it.

4.         How can I tell if I have a long-lasting relationship?

You must honestly evaluate yourself to determine your strength and weaknesses, and what you have to offer a prospective mate.

 For example, are you available?

Are you of good character, and, are you committed to personal growth?

There are ways you can rate yourself.

And if you score reasonably high on the eligibility scale, you can confidently consider yourself a good catch.

5 Should I use my friend to help me find my soul mate?

Yes, friends are an excellent source to assist you in your search for your ideal partner. Friend already knows you and may have a pretty good idea of your taste. Also, friends, especially those already in a relationship, would want to see you happy. But, there are some precautions you ought to take when dealing with friends. For example, let your friends know your preferences beforehand, this way you can avoid ill feelings and possible embarrassment.

6. How can you tell if he\she truly loves you?

Every relationship is different, but there are some telltale signs once you get to know your partner better.

By learning these signs, you can be reasonably certain if true love does not exist between you and your partner.

 Sometimes an opportunity may arise when true love can be

Positively proven, but such cases are rare.

7.    Should I stop seeing him?

This new guy I’m dating is okay, but I found out his brother and uncles are serving term in jail, should I stop seeing him?

You cannot always judge a person by his\her family’s standards; ones personality can be different from those of their families.

 However, be aware, that a person’s upbringing has a lot to do with how he\she turns out.

It’s necessary to obtain information about the family of the person with whom you intend to share your life.

For example, find out why his family is in jail.

Someone from a family of habitual criminals may have similar personalities.

8.         Find me someone suitable to marry outside the country?

Could international dating services find me someone suitable to marry outside the country? Yes, you can use the dating services out side your country but you have to know your selves before you talk marriage.

Could international dating services have become quite popular in recent times; many men claim they have found suitable partners through these services.

9 Are men’s threats ended by women who are independent, and earn more money than they do?

Traditionally, men feel needed when their wives depended on them as the Principal providers.

This status identified men as heads of their households.

Today most men share equal partnerships with their wives in the home.

But while this may be true for the majority, some men continue to live by the old traditions.

To some of these men, they may view an independent wife as a threat to their masculinity.

10  When is the right time for a woman to have sex with a new partner?

It is entirely up to the woman, but she should be aware that having sex too soon might cause a man to treat her as a casual sex partner.

On the other hand, delaying sex too long may cause a man to think something is wrong with her.

 There are ways, however, for a woman, if she chooses to delay sex but keep a man’s interest.  (But from me to you is that you keep God interest first, for is marriage before sex)

11  Should a couple live together before they get married?

There are some things you can only find out about a person, if you live with him\her day in and out under the same roof.

Living together before marriage might be a good way to confirm compatibility between two people.

 It is important however for both partners to agree beforehand on their reasons for living together.

 If living together is a prerequisite to getting married, there are certain precautions a couple should take.

12  Does marriage mean I am morally committed to my partner for life?

Traditionally, people remained in unhappy marriages because of their commitment. “Until death do us PART.?” Today, with the practice of easy divorce, people are refusing to stay married if they are unhappy.

 Hence, people are not staying married because of their commitment, but they become committed to their partners when the marriage is a happy one. But when you are in love yes it means committed for life.

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