As God put an end to Jabez's poverty, I decree into your life today that, whatever problem or tribulations you are facing in your life that you don't like or want, God shall put an end to it right now in Jesus name.

 The Lord will bring a testimony out of your weakness and catapults you to the next Glory in Jesus name. Every power of darkness contending with your Glory, receive the light of fire of God in Jesus Name. Today, shouts of joy will never never cease from mouth because the Glory of God is upon you.

The Lord, will be before you to lead you, behind you to guide you, beside you to protect you and above you to cover you with the  Blood of Jesus. The power of victory, protection and independence shall be your portion in Jesus Mighty name. Amen. HAPPY SUNDAY, enjoy the amazing Grace of God.

Sex can bring about new feelings

The best way to prepare for the decision to have sex is to become comfortable with communications about your needs. Choosing to take part in one kind of sexual activity doesn’t automatically mean that you’re up for anything. The best way to make sure that your limits are understood and respected is to have sex with a partner who not only respects you and your body, but who will talk with you before you have sex about your concerns and boundaries.

Communicating these things before you’re actually in a sexual situation can be very helpful in making sure that you are both on the same page. If you don’t feel right about something, say so! Anyone who challenges your choices about whether or not to have sex is not giving you the respect that you deserve. Pay attention to your feelings, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making decisions that are right for you.

You own your  Feelings

Because sex can bring about new feelings, it is helpful to think about your reactions, emotions and possible risks every time you consider having sex with a new person. Make sure you take time to think about how to prepare yourself for an experience that could be wonderful, but can also be hard emotionally. These questions can be helpful:

                            

 "My wife won't have sex with me but once a month--if that! What is 'normal sexual relations'? She makes me out to be a sex maniac. What does the bible say, if anything, about this?"

1Cor 7:5 (NKJ) Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time...

1Cor 7:5 (Wey) Do not refuse one another, unless perhaps it is just for a time and by mutual consent...

So, it is a sin to refuse sex to your spouse. More to the point are the verses just before:

1Cor 7:3-4 (NRS) The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

As to frequency, I suppose people differ. But it is not for an outsider to say in any case. If one partner wants sex, then God's command for marriage is clear enough: "no refusal" is permitted unless mutually agreed to for a time of prayer. That is the command of scripture. Your body belongs to her, and vice versa.

First, search your own heart and see if you have not "destroyed your own household" (Pv 14:1) in terms of normal sexual response and desire. In other words, if you have been sinning and are just reaping the harvest of your ways, then there is no time like the present to repent, ask for forgiveness, and seek God for healing. But if your conscience is clear, and she is sinning by "holding out", this is also a grievous sin that directly disobeys the word of God, and she must be confronted about it.

Practically, this needs to be worked out some other way than by the letter of the law; but the law has its "ministry" (of condemnation). The law won't change her, in other words, but will serve to bring proper conviction into her life. God has told you what to do if you find your brother (or sister, in this case) in sin (Mt 18:15-17). Go to her, just the two of you, and confront her. If she does not repent, then go with two or three. This is the command of your Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

More than a few women have a problem in this area. Not to be overly dramatic, but these women are prostituting themselves within marriage. For one reason or another, such women like to have their husbands sex starved so they can blackmail them, control them, humiliate them, dole out the favors on their terms, get what they want, etc. They are prostitutes, in other words, who happened to be married. Husbands can do the same thing, and have, as a form of control; but it is more often women who fall into this pathology of sin. Of course, there is always the excuses and contingencies, as with any sin. But God looks to the heart of the matter, to what is really going on. Whenever sex is bartered, it is prostitution; and no money need change hands. Married people belong to each other. A wife in disobedience has become a married prostitute with a single customer. God is not mocked. Such is a great offense and thus the warnings of the scriptures above.

There is not much that scripture says to married couples, and this is something very clear. It is a sin to deny the partner in marriage. This must be confronted and repented of.

Eph 5:3-17 (NIV) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people... Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient... Find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is light that makes everything visible... Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is.

Can there be love at first sight?

 

1. Can there be love at first sight?

Sometimes when you meet someone for the first time, you immediately sense an attraction.

This happens because your subconscious recognizes similarities you share with that person.

This instant recognition is not love, but provides an opportunity for you to get to know each other and possibly fall in love.

 This is nature’s way of bringing two people who share compatibility together. Sometimes this happens, but the people involved miss the opportunity to make a physical connection with each other, but the mental connection is clear. Yes there can be love at first sight.

2. Why do people need love?

mother’s love, which is considered the highest form of love, is associated with care and protection.

so when someone feels loved, he\she feels cared for and protected; he\she feels safe. 

In the days of pain, a man who love’s a woman would do whatever it takes, including risking his life to provide the necessities for her survival.  In return his wife would show her love by providing the comforts of home, such as, treating his wounds, giving him love, sexual pleasure, and bearing him children.

3. Could you create sexual chemistry?   

If at the beginning of a relationship or a short period thereafter you do not feel a sexual attraction for your partner, it is unlikely that this chemistry would develop.

Like every other thing, there are exceptions, but with sexual chemistry, you either have it or you don’t and there are reasons for it.

4.         How can I tell if I have a long-lasting relationship?

You must honestly evaluate yourself to determine your strength and weaknesses, and what you have to offer a prospective mate.

 For example, are you available?

Are you of good character, and, are you committed to personal growth?

There are ways you can rate yourself.

And if you score reasonably high on the eligibility scale, you can confidently consider yourself a good catch.

5 Should I use my friend to help me find my soul mate?

Yes, friends are an excellent source to assist you in your search for your ideal partner. Friend already knows you and may have a pretty good idea of your taste. Also, friends, especially those already in a relationship, would want to see you happy. But, there are some precautions you ought to take when dealing with friends. For example, let your friends know your preferences beforehand, this way you can avoid ill feelings and possible embarrassment.

6. How can you tell if he\she truly loves you?

Every relationship is different, but there are some telltale signs once you get to know your partner better.

By learning these signs, you can be reasonably certain if true love does not exist between you and your partner.

 Sometimes an opportunity may arise when true love can be

Positively proven, but such cases are rare.

7.    Should I stop seeing him?

This new guy I’m dating is okay, but I found out his brother and uncles are serving term in jail, should I stop seeing him?

You cannot always judge a person by his\her family’s standards; ones personality can be different from those of their families.

 However, be aware, that a person’s upbringing has a lot to do with how he\she turns out.

It’s necessary to obtain information about the family of the person with whom you intend to share your life.

For example, find out why his family is in jail.

Someone from a family of habitual criminals may have similar personalities.

8.         Find me someone suitable to marry outside the country?

Could international dating services find me someone suitable to marry outside the country? Yes, you can use the dating services out side your country but you have to know your selves before you talk marriage.

Could international dating services have become quite popular in recent times; many men claim they have found suitable partners through these services.

9 Are men’s threats ended by women who are independent, and earn more money than they do?

Traditionally, men feel needed when their wives depended on them as the Principal providers.

This status identified men as heads of their households.

Today most men share equal partnerships with their wives in the home.

But while this may be true for the majority, some men continue to live by the old traditions.

To some of these men, they may view an independent wife as a threat to their masculinity.

10  When is the right time for a woman to have sex with a new partner?

It is entirely up to the woman, but she should be aware that having sex too soon might cause a man to treat her as a casual sex partner.

On the other hand, delaying sex too long may cause a man to think something is wrong with her.

 There are ways, however, for a woman, if she chooses to delay sex but keep a man’s interest.  (But from me to you is that you keep God interest first, for is marriage before sex)

11  Should a couple live together before they get married?

There are some things you can only find out about a person, if you live with him\her day in and out under the same roof.

Living together before marriage might be a good way to confirm compatibility between two people.

 It is important however for both partners to agree beforehand on their reasons for living together.

 If living together is a prerequisite to getting married, there are certain precautions a couple should take.

12  Does marriage mean I am morally committed to my partner for life?

Traditionally, people remained in unhappy marriages because of their commitment. “Until death do us PART.?” Today, with the practice of easy divorce, people are refusing to stay married if they are unhappy.

 Hence, people are not staying married because of their commitment, but they become committed to their partners when the marriage is a happy one. But when you are in love yes it means committed for life.

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